NLP Meta Model exercise
NLP Meta Model exercise
NLP Meta Model exercise
NLP Meta Model has aptly been nicknamed as a free flow conversational coaching tool. No other coaching tool has had been as effective as NLP Meta Model Challenges/Responses in the matter of thrusting the stuck door knob open, to let in the fresh sunlight on dingy unhelpful states of mind. A person can easily learn NLP Meta Model exercises by identifying NLP Meta Model language patterns in regular conversations in a safe environment, and not coming up with an NLP Meta Model response or question to challenge the NLP Meta Model violation. Once, a person has practiced using the above method, then a person can extend the learning by actually challenging the NLP Meta Model language violations using NLP Meta questions for deletions/distortions/generalizations.
Whether you want to improve the quality of your everyday conversation or you want to understand how someone thinks, the Meta Model is your go-to answer. After all, the NLP Meta Model is the model of language about language! It is the stethoscope which allows you to diagnose-
# Clear and simplified the meaning
# Limitations in mental maps
# Troublesome thinking patterns
# Root cause of problem behaviors
Here’s the glimpse of a coaching session (NLP Meta Model exercise) to illustrate the application of NLP Meta Model:-
Coach: Hello Mrs. X! What are we going to work on today?
Client: Hello Coach, I am not able to focus at work these days.
Coach: How do you know that you are not able to focus at work?
(Information recovered on the missing verb)
Client: Mails are piling up. I am racing against time and things are not moving.
Coach: Which things specifically?
(Information recovered on the missing noun)
Client: Budget preparation, reports, vendor payments, audit follow-ups, appraisals, a lot of things actually.
Coach: What has changed in your environment?
Client: a Few weeks back my colleague got transferred to another unit. Now I am doing even her bit of work. I have too much on my plate now.
Coach: What else?
Client: Well, because of her transfer my spark has died down.
Coach: How exactly did your colleague’s transfer cause your spark to die down?
(Cause and effect distortion pointed)
Client: Ours is a small department of 5. She used to work at my neighboring desk. Apropos her transfer, now I’m sitting next to just an empty desk. I miss that spark and liveliness. Together, work is fun.
Coach: Together work is fun, According to whom?
(Lost performative pointed)
Client: (thinks about the distortion) Occasional chitchats help you know.
Coach: In what way?
(Information recovered unspecified verb)
Client: It feels good to be connected.
Coach: and?
(Information recovered)
Client: I don’t want to feel left out.
Coach: Hmm. When you don’t want to feel left out, what exactly do you want then?
Client: I want to be accepted by them for who I am.
Coach: Accepted by whom?
(Information recovered on the missing noun)
Client: My boss.
Coach: and?
(Information recovered)
Client: My boss thinks that because I am married, I should not be promoted to the next level.
Coach: How do you know that?
(Mind reading pointed)
Client: I know it.
Coach: What exactly did your boss communicate which caused you to think so?
Client: He didn’t say it to me, but I know this is the case. He promoted my colleague who is not married.
Coach: How do you know that promotion of an unmarried colleague just means that your boss thinks you should not be promoted to the next level?
(Complex equivalence pointed)
Client: (thinks about the distortion) Hmm, My colleague is overall more experienced than me. Maybe she deserved this promotion more than me.
Coach: What else?
Client: Maybe I would have declined the offer because I cannot move to a different city now.
Coach: What’s stopping you?
(Modal operator of possibility pointed)
Client: I need to be with my family.
Coach: What will happen if you are not there with your family?
(Modal operator of necessity pointed)
Client: Well, since I was a kid I have been conditioned to believe that family is everything, and everything else is secondary. This belief has somehow become my way of being. Parting with this belief is not a good idea. I will wait till there comes an opening in our unit itself.
Coach: How do you know that there will be an opening?
(Presupposition pointed)
Client: There always comes an opening every 3-4 years.
Coach: Always?
(Universal Quantifier pointed)
Client: Hmm, not always. The opening may or may not come because my boss is here to stay. He has even been explicit about it. (pauses) On second thoughts, even if I don’t get promoted, I am happy working here. I enjoy the challenges. Everybody knows me, I know everybody. I like it here. In fact, I am better here.
Coach: Better than?
(Information recovered on comparative deletion)
Client: Better than my previous company. Life is definitely relaxed and better here.
Coach: What about you having too much work on your plate these days?
Client: Oh, I’m not much worried about it. My ex-colleague’s replacement will be joining next week. That work mess is manageable. It’s just a matter of a few days.
Coach: Great! What else you would like to discuss?
Client: Nothing else Coach, I feel much better now!
Coach: Will you be able to focus at work?
Client: Definitely. Like a laser beam! Thanks a ton. Have a great day ahead.
Coach: Have a great day ahead Mrs. X
NLP Meta Model exercise was just to demonstrate how NLP Practitioners and Coaches explore the NLP Meta Model in-depth during their training because the application helps them to
# Gain awareness and perspectives
# Facilitate different response and thus create new choices
# Expand or modify the limitation in people’s map of the world
# Find solutions to difficult situations
# Uncover the core of a person’s perception.
# Enhance interpersonal experience
# Identify how best to motivate a kid/ employee/ colleague/ friend etc
Like them, if you too would like to tune your ears to deal with distortions in everyday conversation and communicate clearly and unambiguously, read about NLP Meta Model examples here.
